We adapted. We transitioned. We got used to Dad being away and created an environment conducive to a one parent household. But that was many years ago. We did it when the kids were very young. Now? Now they are grown up little people. They have friendships and sports and school performances and church commitments and their whole little life is vital to having Dad at home.
So, we’re here again.
I announced to my friends on Facebook that we would need a LOT of prayer as we transition to this family change. I did it on Facebook because, stupidly, I thought I would avoid the questions and the ‘looks.’ I thought I’d take care of it in one blanket post and everyone would say what they wanted to say in the comments and leave me alone about in person.
But they haven’t.
How do you feel about it Sara?
Are you scared?
Did the kids take it hard?
What will you do?
It’ll be like you’re a single mom, you know that right?
Will you move?
What about your job? You can’t quit your job.
Oh honey.. you’re going to be exhausted.
I just know I couldn’t do it. You’re brave.
Well you don’t have to do it. I DO. Maybe I’m already tired of all the remarks of people telling me what I already know or feel. Yes it’s going to be hard. Yes I’m scared. The kids are taking it extremely hard and no I won’t be moving and you know what? My job is still here and I never mentioned giving that up. Why would I?
Am I naive to think I can do it all? Have a full time job and parent by myself during the week? I mean, it’s not like my husband will be gone all the time. He’ll come home on the weekends when he can. We’ll visit him when we can.
So, I use this post to vent a bit, but mostly to crowdsource all those who have gone before me. How do you keep your family going with your spouse living in a different city? Is there anything you wished you knew BEFORE you experienced it?
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