It’s a question that we’ve all asked ourselves. From an early age, we begin to think about who we want to be or what we are supposed to do. The fact is, our relationships play a major role in who we become, just as who we are plays a major role in how our relationships materialize and mature. Most of us can say that the instant replay of our adult lives to this point weren’t quite like we imagined at twenty years old. Life happens and things change.
You meet someone, get married, have kids, and do the best you can to get by. Often, “getting by” leads to mistakes made and putting yourself in a place where you have to live with the one thing you never wanted: regret. From my own experience, maintaining a relationship is a difficult task and, let’s face it, being married is hard. The real problem with this is, most of us do not realize how the process of developing a solid relationship is truly supposed to work. People do not meet each other and have a life-long friendship or marriage because they “met the right person.” Just like any relationship of worth, there are times of sunshine and rain. Sara and I will be sharing more of our experiences with this topic in the coming months.
Andy Stanley’s The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating asks the question “Are you who the person you’re looking for is looking for?” While this study is mainly focused toward young people in the dating scene, it is also relative to adult friendships and married life. With over twelve years of marriage under our belts, we still consider ourselves to be a novices. However, we understand that the only way to reach our goal (to be old and still like each other) is to each become the person that the other is looking for. Spend some time listening to what Andy has to say and feel free to comment with your thoughts.