My Dad has been working in New Mexico the last several weeks. I learned, tonight, that he’ll be arriving home on Friday, which just so happens to be the day I fly out to LA. He, then, leaves again on Sunday to work in California, which is the day I return. I miss him. It brought me back to all those very special moments we had together as a child.
Dads and daughters have a very special kind of relationship and it’s been such a sweet blessing to watch our daughter with her Daddy for the last eight years. My hope is that she clings to him as I did to my Dad and remembers just how special and beautiful she is. While there are TONS of things I know she’ll learn from him, there are five VERY specific, yet small, things I hope she learns from her Dad.
1. The role he plays in her life: Young girls will never understand why their Dad does or says the things he does. My hope is that she understands his role has been given to him by God. He’s there to protect her, guide her, and direct her to all things good and fruitful for her life. My hope is that she allows him the ability to help her choose, wisely, the boys she dates. My hope is that she trusts his judgement as her father, understanding he will always have her best interest at heart.
2. When to let a guy open the door for her: This is one thing I’m teaching my boys about being gentlemen. Always open the door for girls, women, and elderly. My husband, however, had to teach me to gracefully LET him open the door for me. That’s right, I was always just kind of under the notion that if I was at the door and my arms weren’t broken, I could open the door myself. He had to TELL me, “Honey, I WANT to open the door for you. Take a step back and LET me.”
3. How a date should pick her up: I know. I know. She’s only 8-yrs-old, but, in the blink of an eye, she’ll be dating and my hope is that she NEVER allows a guy to honk the horn for her signaling for her to run out to the car. My husband showed her, recently before the Daddy Daughter Dance, that a date should ring the doorbell and present himself accordingly.
4. How to drive stick shift: I don’t know how to drive standard vehicles and there have been a few times I wish I DID know. I’d like her to be versatile in her driving skills and since I can’t teach her, my hope is that HE can. I’d also like to tie in the “changing a flat tire” to that list… all things I STILL don’t know how to do.
5. Not to SOLELY depend on a man: He likes to joke that he wants me to be SOLELY dependent on him for everything, but that’s not the case. He likes that I’m capable of running the household and my own business. My hope is that he teaches my daughter that she has the capability to do things for herself by being inquisitive, hard working, and never letting her dreams get away from her.
Bonus. That guys should ALWAYS show up with flowers. It’s a good thing.
What did you learn from your Dad and what do you hope YOUR daughter learns from her father?
Sara Patterson has been blogging since 2007, but took a break for a couple years to tackle the world of news. She was the Social Media Director for a Houston based market 10 news station for over 2 years, but decided it was time to go back to her roots as a parenting blogger so she can spend more time with her family. Follow her personal Twitter account @SocialNewsSara, blogging account @Family_Appeal, or community involvement account @HFTexans.
Latest posts by Sara Patterson (see all)
- Music Monday: Just Breathe - June 20, 2016
- There is a wolf prowling our schools - May 25, 2016
- Music Monday: I completely adore the song “Priceless” - May 23, 2016