With Valentine’s Day all wrapped up and over, I can’t help but think how misconstrued love really is.
I mean, I asked my 6-year-old what love is and she said, “Love is when you care about someone so much all you wanna do is hug ’em and kiss ’em all day.”
I asked my 3-year-old what love is and his answer? “Love is Momma.”
So many different ways to look at it, yet some people, especially married couples look at love all the wrong way. They see love as Romance, Candles, Presents, all those things that make you feel good, but what about the side of love that doesn’t feel good? The hurtful side of love. Is it love?
The other day I was driving with my husband and I just started crying. Nevermind the fact that the song I included in my Grandfather’s slide show for the funeral was playing on the radio AS we were passing the funeral home. I was crying because things were SO dramatically different from just two years ago.
We’re here with family. Which means, no matter what we have people to turn to. Our friends have changed, Our financial situation has changed, our children have changed, and our relationship with each other has changed. Nothing is the same, but I believe it’s because I took all that was hurtful and realized it was God’s way of loving me and teaching me how to love and how to be loved.
What do I mean exactly? My marriage has seen it’s ups and downs through extramarital affairs, addiction, and job loss. God showed me the side of love that doesn’t feel good. Although I hurt every day for a year, I learned how to forgive, truly forgive myself and my husband. I learned to be patient in God’s plan for my life. I learned that love is not always going to feel good, but it will ALWAYS grow me into a person who can love a HUNDRED times more than I could before.
Love isn’t about romance, but instead about loving the way Christ loved, unconditionally.
A friend of mine was telling me about her martial problems and mentioned that she has really been trying, but how can she show love to someone who doesn’t show it back…Someone who seems to balk at the sight of her and belittles her? It’s not easy to love someone when they aren’t showing love back.
But my answer to her was, “The way he loves you and treats you, should not affect the way you love and treat him.” It’s too easy to listen to what the world says and give up when love isn’t wrapped up in pink hearts and red roses. Love is complex, it’s deeper than we can ever imagine so why do we think we can define it when we feel the slightest of pain?
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